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Helen’s Story
When I first found out I was pregnant with my third child, I felt trapped, sad, confused and desperation filled all my thoughts. I was 23 years old and already a single mom of two young children, I had no money, no place of my own and what seemed like a not so bright future. I did have a job as a housekeeper in a small hospital, I did have a good supportive friend that was a nurse in that hospital. From the moment I confided in her she offered to help me through the pregnancy and then take the baby and raise it as her own.
I had already seen the first of two doctors that I needed to see to have an abortion. After a lot of inner conflict, and facing an unplanned pregnancy all alone, I decided to move out of state with the support of my friend’s help, I lived out my pregnancy and delivered my baby daughter, born February 2, 1972. My good friend kept her promise, she came immediately picked up my daughter from the hospital when she was only three days old. That day will never leave my thoughts, I cried and cried, initially I did go through a time of grief for what I had done, and then God’s peace began to comfort me.
We went back to our old lives, we were friends, I would babysit my own daughter, often, and I knew that she was a happy child. Over the years, not a day went by that I did not think of and long for her, especially when I looked at my other children, I later married and had a fourth child. My daughter did not know that I was her mother until she was a young woman of twenty one years.
I am so proud of her today, she works in the Crisis Pregnancy Center and she shares my story and how God gave me the strength to do the right thing, to choose the best option for her, not and not just for me. My feelings of inadequacy and sadness for not raising her myself, I have given to God, because she and I share such a sacred bond, and our family feels abundantly blessed and appreciative to all have each other. That is God’s peace, it now fills my heart.
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Anjie's Story
Not a day goes by that I don’t thank God for my birth mom, Helen, and for the selfless loving act she did by giving me to someone who she believed could give me more opportunities in life. When she first discovered she was pregnant she began the process for an abortion, at that time you had to see two different doctors, after seeing the first one, her friend offered her support and another option. My mom was a single mom of two already, with no real place of her own to live, she felt that her mom would be so disappointed and unsupportive.
Like so many moms that come in to the Crisis Pregnancy Center, they say: “I cannot take care of the kids I already have, how can I have another one?” More times than not they choose abortion, because they feel it would be too too difficult to go through with a pregnancy and then give the child away. My mom felt the same, until she finally made up her mind that it was the best option. I realize that circumstances can sometimes seem impossible, thankfully knowing and loving a God that has no limits, I know that any chance at life is better than no chance at all. In my case I feel like a success, especially when I look at my loving husband of ten years and our two amazing children. I do not feel anything else but BLESSED.
I do know what it is like to carry life, and the thought of giving a precious baby that you have just gone through so much to bring into the world, away. Well it’s not an easy choice, but as compared to the devastation, hopelessness and sadness that I see in so many women after they choose the alternative; abortion. Today, both my mothers and I have great relationships. So many women look at me when I tell them they should just consider adoption, they say: “I just can’t, I can’t”, I can confidently look them back in the eye and say, “yes you can, and I will help support you to get through this”.
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Pam's Story
Her hair, by chance, is the same color as mine, only more luxurious. Her brown eyes, direct and sensitive. The curve of her cheek, the small round nose that wrinkles up with a laugh, the perfect shape of her head, her long elegant fingers that tap out a text message faster than a thought.
The round sturdiness of her thighs puts me in mind of that young woman nearly two decades ago who sat on the couch in the adoptive agency office, wistful, with dark circled eyes. Her sturdy thighs flattened against the couch, loins that had recently given birth to a small baby girl. My girl, our daughteer, who at three weeks old, grafted into my longwaiting heart and grew to encompass every corner of it.
After all the failed tries, the years of monthly disappointment, the prayers that I did not know I was praying were so perfectly answered by this selfless act: a young woman who chose life for her daughter and me as her mother.
By chance?As this young life came into mine, we were changed forever. We became mother and daughter, love not linked by genetics, but fully embodied in kisses, embraces, deep joy. Every part of my being entered into this new relationship that challenged and changed my heart, perceptions, morals.This young life connects all the missing parts. Her face, her heart, her strong sense of herself, puts me in mind of her birth mom, who blessed me with her brave choice and whom my heart blesses for her incredible generosity. If I have shaped my daughter's life some, this once wriggling, giggling child taught me far more. He knew that loving her would bring me back - with her in tow - to a deeper relationship with Him, the creator of us all. Not by chance, but by love. |
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Dawn's Story
Dear Potential Birth Mother,
Thank you for considering the possibility of adoption for your baby. I would like to briefly share the joy that has come into our lives all due to one young woman seeking answers to an unwanted pregnancy.
Our birth mother went in for an abortion three times before she decided on the option of adoption. She stated that she desired to “choose life” for her baby even though she was unable to care for her. My husband and I have been unable to conceive during our 16 years of marriage and had to face the sad reality that it wasn’t going to happen. Then we received a phone call that a birth mom had read our profile and wanted to meet us. Since that day, our lives have never been the same.
Isabella Hope has brought such happiness to our lives. In fact, she completes us. She is loved not only by our extended family and us but also by her birth mother. We had a short but precious relationship with her and we will always love and cherish her for the choice she made.
Especially during this Christmas Season, we find ourselves happy and thankful: First to God for allowing this young woman to conceive Isabella, and secondly to her birth mom for entrusting her to us.
May you make the best decision possible for your little one. Adoption is a beautiful option, as it can allow you the opportunity to move on with your life, while also provide you with the assurance that your baby is being loved and treasured forever. Besides having a relationship with God, I know of no greater gift.
Very Sincerely,
Dawn and Kevin Montgomery |
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